You're Not You

2014 NR 1h 42m DVD

You're Not You

2014 NR 1h 42m DVD
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Finding her life upended after being diagnosed with a fatal illness, classical pianist Kate inexplicably hires flighty college student Bec as a caregiver. Though they're polar opposites, they forge a bond -- which grows stronger as Kate deteriorates.
Hilary Swank, Emmy Rossum, Josh Duhamel, Loretta Devine, Ernie Hudson, Frances Fisher, Marcia Gay Harden, Ali Larter, Jason Ritter, Julian McMahon, Andrea Savage
George C. Wolfe
Widescreen 1.77:1
English SDH
English: Dolby Digital 5.1, French: Dolby Digital 5.1
NR - Not rated. This movie has not been rated by the MPAA.
age 14+
Common Sense rating OK for kids 14+
age 14+

Common Sense Note

Parents need to know that You're Not You is a frank description of the steady decline of a concert pianist named Kate (Hilary Swank) who's diagnosed with the fatal degenerative disease ALS when she's 35. The film depicts her and those around her in all their frailty and human failings as they struggle to cope with the devastation of her condition. Adults and children alike may find it difficult to watch Swank's expert portrayal of diminishing physical capacity, including incomprehensible speech and labored breathing. The movie addresses questions of invasive, life-prolonging procedures and how decisions about them should be made. Children 13 and younger will understand the issues but may find them too emotional to handle. Expect strong language ("f--k," "s--t," and more), scenes of implied sex (no nudity), drinking, and marijuana use.

Sexual Content

A man and woman are shown in an obscured sex act; no nudity. Another scene depicts two clothed adults after implied sex. For one character, sex is unconnected to commitment, love, or affection. One character has sex with a stranger. Two characters have sex with people married to others.


The story is about a woman who dies from an incurable disease, but none of what she suffers is violent -- just sad and upsetting.


Liberal conversational use of "s--t," "f--k," "ass," "a--hole," "tits," "hell," and "bang."

Social Behavior

This is a sad but meaningful story about a devastating, incurable disease that strikes a young, talented woman. Her loved ones behave badly and then well as they cope with their grief, and she does her best to appreciate the life she's led and let go of what she can't control.


Not applicable

Drugs / Tobacco / Alcohol

Characters are shown drinking; ALS patients and their friends are shown smoking marijuana.

  • Age appropriate
  • Not an issue
  • Depends on your child and your family
  • Parents strongly cautioned
  • Not appropriate for kids of the age

This information for parents is provided by Common Sense Media, a non-profit organization dedicated to improving kids' media lives.

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